Mothers’ Dresses

One more thing is checked off the wedding to-do list….both my mom and Scott’s mom got their dresses!

First to shop was my mom.

We started at the mall and found a few nice dresses.  I didn’t take photos of the first few.  Then we found this one.

Option 1 Front

Option 1 Front

Option 1 Back

Option 1 Back

We all liked it but Mom wasn’t convinced it was the one so we went to Alfred Angelo, where I got my dress.  She tried this on.

Option 2 with Long Skirt

Option 2 with Long Skirt

We loved the fabric and the color, but that skirt just wasn’t cutting it.  It was too frumpy!  Then the sales lady found a pencil skirt.

Option 2 with Short Skirt

Option 2 with Short Skirt

Isn’t that pretty?  She decided this was the one, only in a slightly lighter color.  It’s called Wild Orchid and is just a tad more lavender than burgundy.  It’s more of a spring color than this darker purple.  (I think the collar part of the jacket needs to be folded out a bit more than in this pic.)  She placed the order and now we wait for it to come in!  Luckily it doesn’t need much in the way of alterations because it’s going to get here with not much time to spare!

Next was a shopping trip with my future mother-in-law, Scott’s mom.  A posse including me, Scott, his mom, Scott’s sister Karla and her partner Kira started at David’s Bridal.  After a few nos, she tried this one on.

Dotte's Dress

Dottie's Dress

We all just loved it and knew it was the one!  Dottie needed some convincing but eventually realized it was perfect.  Look at that smile!

So the two moms will be in complementary colors and both are in flattering styles for each of them.  Success!  I’m so thrilled that this was pretty painless for all parties and that both moms will be comfortable and beautiful at the wedding.


Possible Readings

I am almost at the 4 month mark till the wedding and things are happening like crazy!  Tonight I have turned my thoughts to the possible wedding ceremony readings.

We are planning on having my sister’s husband do one reading, since he’s been like a brother to me for over 10 years, and Scott’s sister do another since they are very close.  These are the three readings I am trying to choose between.

Velveteen Rabbit

1.  Excerpt from the Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams

“What is REAL?” asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. “Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?”

“Real isn’t how you are made,” said the Skin Horse. “It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.”

“Does it hurt?” asked the Rabbit.

“Sometimes,” said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. “When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.”

“Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,” he asked, “or bit by bit?”

“It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse. “You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”

Robert Fulghum

2.  Union by Robert Fulghum

You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes, to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making commitments in an informal way. All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks – all those conversations that began with, “When we’re married,” and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” – all those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding. The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.” Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another – acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, even teacher, for you have learned much from one another these past few years. Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things between you will never quite be the same. For after today you shall say to the world – This is my husband. This is my wife.


Kahlil Gibran

3.  Quote by Kahlil Gibran

You were born to be together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in your silent memory.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heaven dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bondage of love.
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup, but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread, but eat not of the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone, though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping,
For only the hand of life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together,
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in shadow.  – Kahlil Gibran

Do any of you have a preference?  Did you use any of these in your wedding or have you heard any read at a wedding you’ve attended?  How did it go over?